Ill Advised with Stefani & Ray

Ill Advised with Stefani and Ray is a comedy-advice podcast where friendship meets life’s messiest situations. Each week, the BiFFs dive into classic and modern advice columns — from the sincere & genuine to the unhinged & absurd — and serve up their own brand of thoughtful, unfiltered advice, the way only a best friend could. If you like living through someone else’s drama, emotional deep-dives, and laughing through life’s inconveniences, this one’s for you. Join the BiFFs — Stefani & Ray — as they dig into advice columns and dish out their own insights with humor, heart, and a whole lot of therapy under their belts. Come for the laugh. Stay for the advice. Therapy-adjacent, wine-fueled, and probably ill advised.
Episodes
Episodes



Wednesday Mar 08, 2023
56 | Utilize Your Urethra
Wednesday Mar 08, 2023
Wednesday Mar 08, 2023
Reflecting on the NY Times’, the Ethicist, the BiFFs try their hand at providing moral and ethical guidance regarding a mother’s confession of infidelity following her husband’s death, a writer who wonders if the murder she witnessed is canon, and the ethical responsibility to reveal that the death of a son was due to an overdose. [La Marca Prosecco]
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Wednesday Mar 01, 2023
55 | He Shan’t Advise
Wednesday Mar 01, 2023
Wednesday Mar 01, 2023
The BiFFs talk through the guidance of Advice Goddess Amy Alkon. An unsupportive best friend isn’t your best friend. A husband trying to “show up” stirs up memories of hate and deceit. Paper thin walls allow a neighbor to eavesdrop on another’s verbal abuse. Girl’s night turns into a discussion about the value of “I’m sorry.” [Cloud No. 9 Sauvignon Blanc, 2017]
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Wednesday Feb 22, 2023
54 | Auntie AITA
Wednesday Feb 22, 2023
Wednesday Feb 22, 2023
The BiFFs take to Reddit’s Am I the Asshole (AITA) thread. Topics include wall demolishing tongs, taking away your maid of honor’s “plus-three,” dirty underwear in exchange for groceries, and cutting out on your son’s wedding to be with his ex-wife. [Bodega Garzon Cabernet Franc, 2019]
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Wednesday Feb 15, 2023
53 | That’s Cough With An ’L’
Wednesday Feb 15, 2023
Wednesday Feb 15, 2023
Workplace wet dreams. Kids' similarities to their father trigger mom. Crazy ex-girlfriend gets ballsy. It gets personal with Little Village Mag’s Dear Kiki. All that and more from the Biffs in this week’s episode. [Mauro Molino Barbera d'Alba, 2020]
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Thursday Feb 09, 2023



Thursday Feb 09, 2023



Wednesday Feb 08, 2023
52 | Walking Bowel Syndrome
Wednesday Feb 08, 2023
Wednesday Feb 08, 2023
The BiFFs revisit the Urban Diplomat this week. One writer teeters between shame and falling from grace. A peeper complains that her neighbor is peeping. Lemonade and ball-hockey piss off an abutting neighbor. And do ear infections really put hair on your chest? [Bancroft Estates Sauvignon Blanc, 2021]
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Wednesday Feb 01, 2023
51 | Part My Red Sea
Wednesday Feb 01, 2023
Wednesday Feb 01, 2023
This week’s episode features Dear Kiki. The BiFFs discuss the dislike of receiving oral sex, a minor on Tinder pushing the legal limits with a twenty-three year old, and age as a factor in a relationship where the other half is barely legal. [Cap Royal Bordeaux Supérieur, 2019]
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