Ill Advised with Stefani & Ray

Ill Advised with Stefani and Ray is a comedy-advice podcast where friendship meets life’s messiest situations. Each week, the BiFFs dive into classic and modern advice columns — from the sincere & genuine to the unhinged & absurd — and serve up their own brand of thoughtful, unfiltered advice, the way only a best friend could. If you like living through someone else’s drama, emotional deep-dives, and laughing through life’s inconveniences, this one’s for you. Join the BiFFs — Stefani & Ray — as they dig into advice columns and dish out their own insights with humor, heart, and a whole lot of therapy under their belts. Come for the laugh. Stay for the advice. Therapy-adjacent, wine-fueled, and probably ill advised.
Episodes
Episodes



Wednesday Sep 14, 2022
31 | Hoot Nanny
Wednesday Sep 14, 2022
Wednesday Sep 14, 2022
The BiFFs veer from the traditional columnists and turn to the Relationship Rules page on Facebook. A man becomes upset with his girlfriend when she refuses to give up her bank account info for a game console. A woman scorned kicks her beau to the curb and wants to rush the healing process. Finally, how do you deal when your husband laughs at you every time you try to initiate intimacy? [19 Crimes Cali Rosé, 2020]
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Wednesday Aug 31, 2022
30 | Should’ve Used That Labia
Wednesday Aug 31, 2022
Wednesday Aug 31, 2022
When Advice Goddess Amy Alkon speaks, the BiFFs suck up the scientific evidence. A business man’s penchant for dating models comes into question when it’s used as a measure for success. An independent individual insists on living their life while their needy counterpart sulks. A snooping boyfriend reads his girlfriend’s journal, realizing she has feelings for another man. [Ashbourne Sauvignon Blanc-Chardonnay Blend, 2018]
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Wednesday Aug 24, 2022
29 | Duct Tape Under Her Boob
Wednesday Aug 24, 2022
Wednesday Aug 24, 2022
Freak in the sheets, #MeToo in the streets. Heather can’t see why her boyfriend needs to have sex in the dark. Peggy Sue and Lyle Jones wonder if their vanilla’s still hitting the spot. [Vallate Prosecco Rosé, 2020]
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Wednesday Aug 17, 2022
28 | Thanks for Cleaning Up After Me
Wednesday Aug 17, 2022
Wednesday Aug 17, 2022
This week the BiFFs travel through time. Ann Landers and her vintage posts commandeer this weeks’ topics. Stay-at-home-wife or sex worker? Sure. But what about cat-fish fiancé? [Cartlidge & Browne Chardonnay, 2013]
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Wednesday Aug 10, 2022
27 | Miscumceptions
Wednesday Aug 10, 2022
Wednesday Aug 10, 2022
The BiFFs find a new column this week in Simply Oloni. The Rap Whisperer makes a cameo in Missionary. Herpes on deck. What now? And Young Wild & Free wonders if her previous zest for sex defines what’s next. [Josh Rose Prosecco]
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Wednesday Jul 27, 2022
26 | Elders On My Berries
Wednesday Jul 27, 2022
Wednesday Jul 27, 2022
This week, Stefani and Ray read questions for Paging Dr. NerdLove of doctornerdlove.com. A love-sick pup dwells when his ex- elects the nuclear option following their break. Platonic tactics, a gym membership, and a new wardrobe have a reader questioning why they’re regularly friend-zoned. A thirty-year-old aromantic virgin worries she’ll find her feels whilst living in her parent’s basement. Send us your tan-lines. [Devils Backbone Vodka Mules]
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Wednesday Jul 20, 2022
25 | C is for Kinky
Wednesday Jul 20, 2022
Wednesday Jul 20, 2022
This week's questions come from Thrillist's "In Bed with Gigi Engle." When a girl runs hot-and-cold, a man in denial worries he's hit the friend-zone. One reader worries that her kinks with her new beau might make her too 'whorey.' Another reader tortures themselves about their relationship status with a person who's more interested in their friend. [Allan Scott Sauvignon Blanc, 2020]
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Wednesday Jul 13, 2022
24 | Douche Responsibly
Wednesday Jul 13, 2022
Wednesday Jul 13, 2022
Dan Savage's "Savage Love" give the BiFFs some food for thought when a 19 year old girl asks for advice after a sexual partner insults her physique in bed. Can a hall pass go wrong if a hall pass don't pass hall? [Ninety Plus Cellars Cotes de Provence Rosé, 2020]
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