Ill Advised with Stefani & Ray

104 - Full Butth*le Present

This week's episode is mini, but fun. The Biffs revisit Reddit's Am I the Asshole Thread. A man asks if he's a jerk for telling his aunt that her man's given up on her when she asks for advice. Another is put off by a yogi's theatrics in the sauna, as he downward-dogs and spreads without so much as a loincloth. Make sure to join us next week as we continue our dive into this thread. [Josh Prosecco Rosé]

103 - If Water Had A Taint

Stefani and Ray visit the Metro.co.uk’s Agony Aunt, Em Clarkson, in this week’s episode. A writer worries about their best friend’s borderline obsession with her beau. One half a relationship has absolutely had it, but doesn’t know how to tell her husband that it’s over. OnlyFans becomes a topic for debate among the Biffs when a woman feels betrayed by her boyfriend after discovering his subscription. [Bota Box Sauvignon Blanc]

102 - Best of the Biffs (Part IV)

It’s another trip down memory lane this week. Follow along with the Biffs as they revisit columns from Dear Kiki, Urban Diplomat, and the Slate’s How To Do It. A woman dying to peg her boyfriend has a hard time finding the words to have the discussion with him. An employee walks into his Boss’s office only to find him watching films of the adult variety. A man going to town on himself is caught by his neighbor, whose trespass is, in part, due to a stray pussy [cat]. It’s the Best of the Biffs Part IV.

101 - Gobsmackedly

This week, the Biffs catch up with Carolyn Hax’s column on the Washington Post. A friendship that should stand the test of time doesn’t when one’s expectations go unmet. Weed - it’s what’s for dinner - and this dinner guest can’t keep their balance long enough to communicate their frustration over crossed boundaries. Dad’s playing sugar daddy while mom’s working extra hard to keep up with the bills on the heels of retirement. [Babich 2021 Sauvignon Blanc]

100 - Is She Manspreading?

In their one-hundredth episode, honorary Biffs (the West Coast Biffs) Rachel Sievers and Ellie-the-Editor of the Answer to Everything Podcast, join Stefani and Ray to celebrate with a bottle of champagne. Ben is surprised and intrigued by his alter-ego Britney. Competitive tooth-brushing masks a fictional couple’s real issues. Cyber-ghosts haunt an imaginative and creative internet surfer. Join this foursome as they take on the internet with some “unrealistic, psychologically unsound scenarios” and responses generated by ChatGPT. Hate it. Love it. [Maybe] learn something? [Veuve Clicquot]

99 - Best of the Biffs (Part III)

Happy New Year. This week's episode reflects on some of the best of 2023, as we work up to our centennial episode. Listen on and revisit more of their favorite columns, with questions from Ask Logan, Ask Daddy, and the Ethicist. A husband hides his wife's only form of sexual pleasure. A writer's partner wants to be his boyfriend when out and about, but prefers the pronoun "she" in private. An author questions her own ethics as she debates whether the murder she was a witness to is fair-game in her profession.

98 - On a Scale from One-to-Bang

It's back to the Slate's "Dear Prudence" column for Stefani & Ray this week. A whole family dynamic shifts when a man decides against donating another sample of his own sperm to his sister and her wife. When another man's brother and best-man's tendency to hire escorts for dinner is exposed, his fiancee's reaction threatens to end their engagement. Lastly, a writer is angered and perplexed with their partner's self-diagnosed autism. Listen to the Biffs weigh-in on these complex issues. [1000 Stories 2018 Bourbon Barrel Aged Red]

97 - 33% Effective at Raising Children

In this week's episode, the Biffs read from Annie Lane's Dear Annie Column. A wife's secret sexual past leaves her husband of fifty years searching for the deep intimacy that once connected them. An adult couple is forced to exist behind closed doors when a man's family refuses to accept his girlfriend, for reasons unknown. A man struggles to find refuge in his girlfriend when she weaponizes his emotions for his dead wife for leverage in the relationship. [Ghost Pines 2020 Cabernet Sauvignon]