Ill Advised with Stefani & Ray

95 - I’m a Ventriloquist?

This week, the Biffs read from Reddit’s Am I The Asshole. A parent’s personal choice results in their child’s bullying and his shifting the burden to another family member. At a college party, a personal question about his penis prompts a writer to respond with a similar personal question about a co-ed’s level of baldness down-south. Navigate these interesting social situations with Stefani and Ray as they judge if these Redditors are assholes. [Novinophobia 2018 Chardonnay]

94 - Took My Pants Off to Cry

This Biffs regrettably follow-through with last week’s promise to revisit Cary Tennis’s advice column from Salon.com. Stefani and Ray differ in opinion on how to handle a situation when a baby sister is discovered to have a criminal record. A man transfers some of his angst and grief onto his partner following the passing of his ‘monster’ of a mother, and he doesn’t even see it. [The Pale 2022 Rosé]

93 - I Am That Friend Group

This week’s episode features questions from Cary Tennis’s advice column from Salon.com. One writer wonders how to keep their mother from traumatizing their kid sister the same way they were affected, by breastfeeding them for too long. Another writer is questioning their contributions to a series of events when their friend tries to run them over with her new beamer. [Chateau de Lacarelle 2021 Beaujolais-Villages Rouge]

92 - Coke by Association

Dear Mrs. Web, personal advice for your life, peaks the interest of the Biffs in this episode. A single, professional, young woman who has it all, questions why she actually has nothing aside from the material. Another woman’s near-, albeit dishonest tryst with her best friend’s fiancé, leaves her contemplating the benefits of coming clean years later. The final writer asks for what she’s doing in wrong in her efforts to make genuine friend connections. [Rio Lindo 2017 Syrah]

91 - Step-Friend

This week, the Biffs revisit How To Do It, Slate.com's sex advice column. One writer’s question deals with a low-libido remedied by liquid courage. A husband’s size isn’t an issue for 19 years, until his wife makes a targeted crack in a drunken stupor. A college student’s knack for “face painting” get’s him in trouble with his girlfriend’s girlfriends, calling his respect for women to question. [Chronic Cellars Sir Real 2020 Cabernet Sauvignon]

90 - Best of the Biffs (Part II)

In Best of the Biffs Part 2, relive some conversations from episodes such as Rectum Ralph, Aunty AITA, Side of Raunch, Gaslighty, and more. In these episodes, they cover some of your favorite columnist from Amy Dickinson to E. Jean Carolle, as well as some of your favorites from the Slate. Laugh at the ridiculous banter. Giggle at the over-reaching puns. Just another weekly chuckle with Stefani & Ray. It’s a wonder these Biffs have made it this far in life.

89 - Best of the Biffs (Part I)

Let’s take a walk down memory lane - a throwback to our first year in podcasting. A “Coffee Shop Karen” from episode 8, wants peace and quiet in a public establishment. From episode 9 (Let Him in Marjorie), a writer’s couples therapist dumps “them” for “him.” And finally, one really long hair on a toe in episode 5 (One Toe One Hair) is the only flaw that this writer sees in his partner.

88 - Pants Off or Zip It

Stefani and Ray talk ‘Ask Amy’ in this week’s episode. A man in his 60s questions his cyber relationship with a twenty-something in the Philippines when he begins to support her financially, despite never having met. A husband snoops on his wife’s computer or phone while she’s using it. A past eating disorder is informing Mom’s present anxieties about her daughter’s possible relapse. And plucking stray-hairs off a shirt should be a sport, but this writer isn’t having it. [Carpineto 2019 Dogajolo Rosso]