Ill Advised with Stefani & Ray

86 - Night Humps

Stefani and Ray read from The Slate's Dear Prudence column, in this week's episode. A man grinds up against his girlfriend in his sleep, calling for his ex-. A woman discovers her wife's secret and mysterious checking account. Sister's quarrel over the importance of one's wedding over the other's vacation. Finally, a man is looking for the words to tell his boyfriend that he's not interested in living in the free home next-door to his parents. [Kadabra 2021 Malbec]

85 - A Hooded Temple

It’s back to the classics this week with life advice from the one and only Dear Abby. A woman ponders her future with her husband after constant gaslighting following sexual assault. When the boyfriend is away for work, the naked, divorced spiritual advisor physically heals his girlfriend, then sleeps over. “Kennedy’s” volleyball future is threatened by Dad’s bigoted views on her trans coach. Finally, a wife’s had enough of her husband letting it all hang out. [Segura Viudas Cava]

84 - Advocating for the Devil

This week, the Biffs read from Reddit’s Am I The Asshole thread (Aunty AITA). A woman’s presumptuous boyfriend plans a work trip, leaving the responsibility of his kids to her. Someone gets defensive after their moment of levity backfires as insensitivity during a funeral. A professional with experience working with individuals diagnosed with ASD pushes the envelope with a friend about her child’s behaviors. Another writer catches mom’s wrath when he refers to someone as “baby momma.” [Azul y Garanza 2020 Tempranillo]

83 - Scientifically Fertile-Looking

The Biffs give Sally Land of The Sun’s Dear Deidre a run for her money in this week’s episode. What’s a man to do when his wife feel ‘dirty & disgusting’ showing him any sort of affection? Is it curtains for this woman’s cowardly nice-guy? Is Mom in the right to accept blame for her son’s inability to warm up to girlfriend? It’s an episode of conviction and impassioned conversation. [Chateau la Commanderie du Bardelet 2019 Bordeaux Blanc (Sauvignon Blanc)]

82 - Lemme Project These Hands

This week, the Biffs read Natalie Bencivenga’s Ask Natalie for the first-, and certainly not the last-, time. Things go awry for one reader after finding out her best friends knew about her husband’s affair. Following a one night stand, this writer wants to know if she should even trouble the standee for reimbursement related to the termination of the pregnancy. Low libidos bring husbands to consider a separate lover for the high-riding counterpart. [Cote Mas 2022 Rose Aurore]

81 - Those Weren’t My Britches

Agony aunt, Coleen Nolan, of UKs Mirror, takes center stage with the Biff's this week. Secret's out and a writer questions whether or not to bring up his partner's affair. Mystery boxers make it home with another writer's wife, following her work trip. A woman wants out of her six-month marriage when her husband begins to treat her as a possession. [90+ Cellars Prosecco]

80 - Dear Elad Vissad

This week, the Biffs give advice in response to listener questions. It’s a soap opera scenario when a writer’s long lost twin ends up with her ex-. What we’re sure is a Lifetime movie plot gets a PBS response when a man confesses to his girlfriend that he’s investigating her family. Finally, a ghost-writing best friend wants in on the accolades that the credited author is receiving. Do you need advice? Send us your questions, comments, and all of your concerns to illadvisedthepodcast@gmail.com. [Chloe 2022 Pinot Grigio]

79 - Polly Want a Condom?

The Biffs take on artificial intelligence this week with ridiculous questions generated by Chat GPT using the prompt, "Twisted questions and scenarios you would send the Biffs of Ill Advised w/ Stefani & Ray, an advice podcast." Let's take a break from the norm and take on a chatty parrot, a spell gone awry, gossiping rodents, and a family of buccaneers. How the AI platform responds will shock you. Don't miss the fun in this episode. [Nomadica Sparkling White]