Ill Advised with Stefani & Ray

77 - Kudos for Gettin’ it

It’s been a minute, so the BiFFs revisit Toronto Life’s Urban Diplomat this week for some fun discussion. Potty-mouth-Penny and her foul influence is tainting the carpool. Social media past puts a grad-school-grad’s career in jeopardy. An Uber rider isn’t keen on stars for stars. A pro-life sticker has potential for a spike in car insurance claims. Finally, a senseless streetcar rider shares her personal conquests on speakerphone.. and there were children around. [A de Arínzano 2020 Rosé]

76 - Pacha Mama

The BiFFs take to The New York Times’ The Ethicist Column, this week. A step-mother feigns love for her step-children, even decades later. Estranged siblings leave a writer debating going around the sister to meet nieces and nephews. Suspected child-abuse leaves a writer unable to reconcile their own ethical dilemma. [Pacha Reserva 2019 Carmenere]

75 - Charles Bundy

The BiFFs test their Sense and Sensitivity this week with Harriette Cole’s column. A woman puts herself on the line to hide her best friend’s affair. A woman flags her ex- for trying to worm his way back into their toxic situation. Mom’s feelings for gay dad cloud her judgement as a parent. Exes living under the same roof fail to set the ground rules for at-home-rebounds. [Prophecy 2019 Buttery Chardonnay]

74 - Non-Vegetarian Wine

It's back to the classics this week for the BiFFs, with Dear Abby. A woman's willingness to help another, and protect her right to choose, leads to divorce. A husband's trips with his ex-wife and their daughters, leaves his new wife with unsettled tropical romance vibes. A sister in denial, spins her toxic relationship into post-mortem glorification. [Riff 2019 Pinot Grigio]

73 - Mt. Me Beautiful

This week, the BiFFs discuss The Guardian's advice column penned by Eleanor Gordon-Smith, with 'fupas on fleek.' Stefani and Ray discuss what body image is to a seven-month old baby, and how that translates to future perception. And a writer's ex-husband and children warm up to the mistress that destroyed their marriage twenty years earlier, when she re-enters their lives. [Mt. Beautiful 2022 Sauvignon Blanc]

72 - In the Privacy of Your Public

In this week’s episode, the BiFFs return with the Slate’s Dear Prudence column. It’s all rainbows and butterflies until you find your husbands slam book on his computer. A guilt-ridden writer just wants peace years after framing her sister for a domestic crime. And Mom, when the door’s closed and the vacuum’s running, maybe knock? [Double Black 2020 Cabernet Sauvignon]

71 - Hurricane Richard

A mother with a convoluted experience with her husband and his interfamilial relations spurs a long and thoughtful discussion with the BiFFs. BFFL Shorty drops in with a question of her own when a conniving ex- pushes the envelope, encroaching on her professional life. [Voga Prosecco]

70 - Consent to Treat

Rachel Sievers (counselor, coach, & retired psycho-therapist) of the Consent to Treat Podcast joins the BiFFs this week to peruse the Washington Post’s Ask Amy Column. A father asks whether he should warn his future son-in-law about the psychological perils that await him, pre-nuptials. A writer asks for guidance for dealing with her psychologist-sister’s niche for crossing boundaries. Stefani get’s real with Rachel in a beautiful, vulnerable conversation. [Tiny [Pink] Bubbles Prosecco d.o.c. Sparkling Rosé]