Ill Advised with Stefani & Ray

68 - Hollalula

The BiFFs are joined by lifelong bestie, Shorty (Chantay), to help answer one of life's long-pondered questions: Am I the Assh*le? Join them as they go through the Reddit thread to tackle some interesting scenarios, such as: when your boyfriend gets mad at you for being in a bathing suit, laughing at your sister-in-law when she asks for help with her weight, and being a secret to your partner's homophobic friends. [D’Autrefois 2022 Chardonnay]

67 - Grand Jeté

This week, the BiFFs revisit Carloyn Hax and her column. A friendship faces uncertainty when a reader is labeled as ‘no fun’ by her best-friend when her focus is evading the husband’s advances. A Mother-in-Law with manipulative side-eye rocks another reader’s peace. And a boyfriend faces-off with his girlfriend’s mastermind cat. [Lobster Reef 2022 Sauvignon Blanc]

66 - Butt Throat

Tried and tested, the Slate's "How To Do It" column takes up the conversation between the BiFFs this week. A man discovers he likes to be watched when his neighbor goes looking for her missing cat. Another's constant attempts at consoling his wife makes for an alright-sex-life. A writer's budding new fetish is threatened by his very livelihood. And Stefani's sister has a question for the BiFFs. [Borrasca Prosecco Rosé]

65 - Let’s Rap

This week, the BiFFs are joined by Philasophikal & J. Ecko, hosts of the Let’s Rap Podcast. The group has an open and honest conversation about the emotional dynamics of men and women ; how love is given, perceived, and received; and communicating specific needs to your partner . It’s a special episode you won’t want to miss. [Amici 2019 Cabernet Sauvignon]

64 - Notorious B.O.C.

This BiFFs are all over the relationship map this week with Sex Column (Metro.co.uk), including: the age old story of son meets wife, wife sleeps with step-dad; keeping the baby based on a ghosting baby daddy; a real life application of attachment theory; and a chauvinist man who thinks of his wife’s friend during sex. [Ruggero di Bardo 2019 Susumaniello]

63 - Hypocrisy Runs Deep

The BiFFs love Meredith’s column so much, that it’s back to Love Letters this week with: a ‘tricked ya’ proposal, an immature silent-treatment-loving husband, and yearning for an ex- in the middle of a pregnancy. [Carnivore 2019 Cabernet Sauvignon]

62 - I Am Team

This week, the BiFFs take on Meredith of the Boston Globe's, Love Letters. It's a series of relationship woes, including a man who hardly acknowledges his son, a wife whose husband's kissing skills are lacking, and fourth-time's-the-charm break-up remorse. [Aix 2021 Rosé]

61 - Sniffing Your Finger

Stefani & Ray talk Harriette Cole’s column, “Sense & Sensitivity.” A woman feels betrayed when her man reveals her deepest secret to his mother. A writer blames their mentor for missed opportunities. Another’s vulnerability with their partner leaves them yearning for a different reaction. A high school bully tries to make amends, but her now adult victim isn’t buying it. [Viña Las Perdices 2018 Cabernet Sauvignon]